There are plenty of precious motherhood moments, and then there are the non-precious ones. You know what I mean? Look, the joy I find in motherhood is a fought-for thing. It’s not easy.
We have three wonderful, verbal, leadership-gifted, emotionally aware, justice loving girls. I am an introvert. You guys, there are so many words in our house all day long that some days my word bank cannot receive any more words. No more deposits, please. Mom needs to hide in the bathroom. Also, I think this might be why I blog. I need to spend some of the words.
Two of these children share a room. One is a packrat, one is a minimalist. This is lively. I keep telling myself that the world will thank me some day for this, as they will be able to room with opposites in college, in marriage, etc. If the world could thank me ahead of time, I think that would be great too.
My hope is that their conflict resolution skills as adults will be stellar. They will be corporate mediators. They will be trial lawyers who win the big cases. They will be working at the UN and will solve the nuclear crisis because there are some days that feel like the nuclear crisis around here. They’ll have had practice.
I actually uttered these words the other day to one of my children… “Child, you cannot just say ‘boom-shaka-laka’ to your sister and walk away from her. This hurts her feelings. ” Other words I have uttered include, “If there is any more fighting over _____, I will take it and you will owe me the money we spent on it.”
I am happy to say that wading through all of the moments above has led us to some pretty cool places. In amongst the weeds, we have found some beauty. We are seeing girls playing games without fighting, giving up their turn with the cookie dough bowl to a sister, scraping pumpkins to get the seeds for the sister who really wanted them, helping each other clean their rooms… Those moments are gold.
We’re learning to find humor in the non-precious moments around here, too, because if we can’t laugh, we might just go crazy. Hoping you can find the ability to laugh at times, too, mommas.